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Jenny Baulkwill, Candle

A light in the darkness

A light in the darkness

Jenny has been working in Candle since 1998

PUBLISHED
2 January 2019

The Candle Child Bereavement Service provides bereavement support to children and young people from all over south London. Jenny, one of our Child Bereavement Service Workers, has been working in Candle since 1998. With over 20 years of experience, we asked her about how Candle makes a difference.

In our group sessions we encourage children to meet with other bereaved young people to break down the feelings of isolation that can often come with grief.

“My role in Candle is about guiding children and their families through the bereavement and taking the weight of the difficult bits.

First we meet with children and their families and try to open up the difficult conversations around bereavement. We try to encourage the children to share their painful feelings with their families by naming those difficult feelings and emotions and acknowledging that death and dying are subjects which shouldn’t be ignored or covered up.

In our group sessions we encourage children to meet with other bereaved young people to break down the feelings of isolation that can often come with grief.

We know that if children don’t have the space to talk about their experience and emotions – those feelings will spill out later on and not always in the best way. We’re trying to protect the mental health and wellbeing of the child by making the feelings of grief more normal.

What we do in Candle is not so different from the kind of conversations that take place on the hospice wards. We’re tackling the same barriers to talking about death and dying and want children to have a voice in this conversation.”

PUBLISHED
2 January 2019

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