“They consider everything, not just one part of your illness. It’s all aspects of your life, and they involve your family as well.”
When Eli first noticed a persistent cough, cancer was the last thing on his mind. A nurse by profession and someone who considers himself health conscious, Eli initially sought help through his GP in October. After multiple appointments, scans and referrals, he received unexpected and life-changing news: he had advanced-stage cancer.
“It was very surprising,” Eli explains. “I’ve always been quite particular with my health. It’s the last thing I would have expected.”
The 53-year-old’s journey to St Christopher’s Hospice began during a hospital admission at King’s. His initial reaction to the word ‘hospice’ was one of anxiety.
“At first, I thought hospice care was only about dying,” he says. “I was a little bit hesitant. But I thought I might as well try it, because I needed support.”
That perception quickly changed.
“Once I got to know the team and visited St Christopher’s, I realised it’s not just about end of life. It’s about caring for the whole person, without focusing only on dying.”
Since connecting with St Christopher’s, Eli has experienced what he describes as “amazing” and continuous care. One of the most significant changes has been in managing his pain, previously one of his biggest concerns.
“The pain was very difficult,” he says. “I’m quite a physical person and like to keep moving, so not being able to do that was frustrating. Now, the pain is very minimal, and that has made a huge difference.”
Eli also values how the hospice team takes a holistic approach, looking beyond just physical symptoms.
“They consider everything, not just one part of your illness. It’s all aspects of your life, and they involve your family as well.”
Before his diagnosis, Eli was an active cyclist, regularly riding long distances each week. At one stage, the pain and treatment made him think he might never return to cycling.
Now, with improved pain management and encouragement from the team, he has started using an exercise bike again at home.
“It makes me feel more normal,” he says. “Like I still have a purpose. Even just being able to get on the bike again is a big step.”
“As long as I can get outside and enjoy some fresh air, that means a lot.”
Being able to receive care at home has been especially important for Eli. With regular home visits and access to a 24/7 support line, he feels reassured and more in control.
“At home, you’re more comfortable and able to speak freely,” he explains. “There are times when it’s difficult to attend appointments, so having that support come to you is incredible. It shows real dedication from the team.”
This support has helped both Eli and his wife, Maria, feel less alone and more confident managing his condition.
Maria, 53, says: “You know that if something goes wrong, there’s someone you can call. That gives you peace of mind.”
A key part of the couple’s experience has been the relationship they have built with Patrick, one of St Christopher’s Clinical Nurse Specialists who works in the community.
“He’s very approachable and really understands what I need,” Eli says. “He looks at everything properly and helps address any issues.”
Patrick has also played an important role in involving Eli’s family in his care, helping to open up conversations that might otherwise feel difficult.
“It helped me understand what my family is thinking and feeling,” Eli explains. “That kind of support is really valuable, it’s not just about me, it’s about all of us.”
Eli’s experience has transformed his understanding of what hospice care really is – something he now actively encourages others to consider.
“I would strongly recommend people give it a try,” he says. “You’ll get the support you deserve.”
Reflecting on his journey, Eli is clear about the difference St Christopher’s has made.
“The care is more comprehensive. It’s not just about one issue – it’s everything. I only wish more people understood what hospice care really offers.”
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